Hurt always stems from expectations not met. Only those from whom we expect a certain behavioural response can actually hurt or disappoint us. If we do not expect another to behave according to our expectations, we do not set ourselves up to be hurt. This is not to be confused with love. We can love someone deeply and sincerely, but if we refuse to superimpose our own personal behavioural standards upon them; we can avoid the pitfalls of hurt and despair that if left unchecked eventually lead to the demise of the relationship.
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